I am an ADHD coach in my 30s who transitioned from a results-first career in healthcare after seeing the power of coaching in my own life. Since 2019, I have helped neurodivergent women set clear goals and take them seriously, blending my corporate drive with a joyful perspective.
With degrees from Dickinson College (B.A.), University of Washington (post-bacc), and University of Oregon (M.S. 2019), I combine academic success and rigor and thousands of hours as a full-time outpatient speech-language pathologist with my own ADHD lived experience. I’m not just a cheerleader; I am a strategist and clinician who takes your progress to heart.
Let's NOT do this: I give you a list of strategies to try, you're already overwhelmed and that list gets forgotten, then you end up living in guilt even more than before. Instead, let's dive much deeper: let's learn about your brain, assess your unique demands and interests, and design a life that you love, made up of routines and habits that feel effortless. Life is meant to be enjoyed!
The Heart of the Table
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Where is ADHD hitting hardest right now?
1) Partner or Spouse
Been there, sister!
Examples of some things we might try:
- I become your accountability partner for a handful of select high-conflict tasks instead of your partner! Well-meaning support can often get tense once we start to feel like we're missing the mark
- You guys are in LOVE! Let's have your partner fill out a strengths inventory about you to get you motivated in a healthy way instead of feeling like you're pouring from an empty cup
- Let's double-check that we're clear on the household goals. Have you heard of "rejection sensitive dysphoria"? A LOT of women with ADHD have this disorder. It can make us think that there is tension in places where there isn't. Let's boil things down to a list of shared goals between you and your partner. We'll exolore how working memory might interact with this list as well
- I don't want to give away TOO much, but once we have our work cut out for us, we'll follow the neuroscience to pinpoint why the household goals aren't being met, then use what we know about your brain to develop a consistent and joyful plan (one example is habit stacking)!
2) Work or Career
ADHD is not the "broken" version of normal.
Examples of some things we might try:
- Let's do a values inventory. One client of mine struggled with answering emails. We found her number one value to be "belonging." While most of her emails were from clients, when we created a visualization exercise for her to practice of her emails reaching people all over the city, emails started to finally feel MEANINGFUL.
- Money is often not enough of a motivator for people with ADHD. It's abstract, long-term, and depersonalized. Saving for a house one day? Let's find a dream house on Zillow for you to stalk for the next 2 years (even after it's sold)
- So much of our worklife is digital now, which means none of it is tactile or even visual. We will find creative ways to show you how hard you're working each day to keep you motivated
3) Day-to-Day Life
Let's break some rules, girl!
Examples of some things we might try:
- Dopamine maxxing!
- Sensory stacking
- Ditching expectations of consistency... like entirely. Having a serving of veggies with every meal sounds much more exhausting than finishing a mini bag of mixed greens by bedtime!
- Always running out of spoons, never running out of forks? Let's buy more spoons and fewer forks!
- And on, and on, and on. We'll use environmental arrangement, metacognition, and a sprinkling of prioritization to find you through-ways in your own life that match your beautiful brain!
I Trust You.
I have total faith in you! I know that you contain a deep desire to give the best and achieve your potential. My role as your coach is not to take over. Instead, I'll help you
clarify your values and strengths;
identify discrepencies in the tasks on your plate and what naturally makes you feel energized and capable;
land on sustainable organizational systems that feel like RELIEF instead of punishment; and if you'd like,
lightly and effectively advocate for yourself at work and around your home.
We'll take it at your speed and I'm here to get you to where you need to go in the most joyful way we can.
A Wedding Story
ADHDers can really struggle to ask for help. L. was overwhelmed with wedding planning, frustrated with herself for not knowing how to ask for help, and stuck in a negative self-talk cycle since the wedding is small and intentionally designed to be easy to plan. Instead of "let's do 30 minutes of wedding things a day!" or "let's work on asking your fiancee for help more!", we opened a Google Sheet and L. wrote EVERY. LITTLE. THING. DOWN. Then we hit "share" with her fiancee. He immediately hopped in and claimed items. The caveat? "Honey, I need you to take the items you're claiming to done-done." <3 Sometimes it's not a time for problem-solving or direct advocacy -- sometimes it's about raising a white flag and letting a loved one see the overwhelm and offer the help!
Real Wins, Mini Stories
Proof that life with ADHD can feel light, capable, and—dare I say—joyful. Here are some bite-sized, true stories from my 1:1 coaching practice to give you an idea of the kind of work we're up to. By the way... these wins took place during individual sessions, and all 3 took up less than 1 session! ;)
Better Bedtime
C. is a mom of 3 under 4. She treasured the mindlessness of scrolling on her phone before bed, but hated how it makes her feel. She reflected to me that these scroll sessions always ended in her seeing something unpleasant that stressed her out or made her upset. She shared that she'd tried keeping books by her bed to read instead, but the phone just always grabbed her instead. Our solution turned out to be gardening magazines from the library! We identified the essential ingedients of these scrolling sessions: novelty, discrete items, and a vague sense of community. Gardening mags turned out to be easy to add to the library storytime trips, relaxing, effective in replacing the mindlessness of scrolling, and novelty-based enough to hold C.'s interest while making her feel better about herself and offering more control over the content she saw before bed!
Paperwork Flip
M. was stuck in a shame spiral related to paperwork. As a healthcare professional, paperwork expectations at her job are high. The turnaround time for each note was 48 hours, but M. was determined to prevent a backlog from forming by trying to complete each note right after each session. The result? Like a snail with a shell, my smart and talented client was pulling a shell filled with frustration, shame, and guilt with her throughout the day. Instead of continuing with this point-of-contact note expectation, we decided to "break the rules" while still meeting the 48-hour deadline by letting tiny backlogs build up. Consistency is the enemy of ADHD! This gave M. the freedom to widdle down the backlog during her lunch on some days, right after work on others, after dinner on others. As counterintuituve as it felt, by loosening the reins, we allowed for more control. This is what evidence-based ADHD care looks like.
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